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Pluck Your Eye Out!

8/6/2014

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by Gerard Terry
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You should know this up front: I am not a theologian. I don’t even know if I spelled the word correctly. But, in reading the Bible, I love present day application. Take the verse Mark 9:47, for example: “And if your eye causes you to stumble, pluck it out. It is better for you to enter the kingdom of God with one eye than to have two eyes and be thrown into hell...”  There is a radical tone underlying this verse, and to the non-theologian (me), it means, take radical steps to avoid sin.

The lust surrounding pornography use is clearly sin and harms us and others in many ways. You and I are both on this website to find help dealing with pornography use. Practical suggestions can make a huge difference. Have you considered implementing radical steps to impede or hinder your path to pornography and lust?

Practical Steps

After I told a friend my favorite spot of seclusion to visit porn sites, he asked me why I had not made changes to make it harder to be there. He asked why my monitor was not turned toward the entrance to the room so anyone walking by would see what I was viewing. That simple change impeded my path to porn. For some, taking a different path home from work at night will cloud their desire to stop at a porn shop. Recently, I stopped watching Netflix at night in order to avoid the temptation to watch inappropriate videos. Other men have their wives control the password on their home computer. 

At a restaurant with a friend for lunch, I asked if he had seen the gorgeous, short-shorts wearing beauty who came in a few minutes earlier. He replied, “yes I did, that is why my glasses are off sitting on the table.” I then took mine off and the temptation to gawk at her faded.

The Anti-Porn Agent

Sometimes, filling our minds and time with positive influences is a good anti-porn agent. In the car, I listen to the Daily Audio Bible podcast every day. Guess what I don’t think about during this time? Plus, I am on my fourth year of listening to the host read through the entire Bible. 

We all know how porn hurts our wives. Why not invest in playing games with your wife rather than watching TV or surfing the internet? When my wife and I play Mastermind, Backgammon, shoot some pool, or go for a walk, I invest in our relationship and I avoid porn. Time spent with my wife builds up our marriage while porn tears it down.

Don’t literally pluck out your eye. Instead, make radical changes to install obstacles to porn use. Fill your time with relationship-building activities with your friends and spouse. Let’s not look back after the next thirty days and regret wasted time spent on the man we wish we were not. Instead, start today to build the man you want to be.
1 Comment
Rob
3/13/2017 05:23:16 am

No idea if this blog is still active?, but here goes

I think I stumbled upon this blog from some link from YouTube, and I'm kinda glad I did
The articles in here seem to have some positive advice, and It's done in a non judgmental way which I like
But I'm curious though...are we defeated before we even begin?....Let me explain what I mean by that, I was intrigued by your story of how you noticed a beautiful woman in a restaurant and you asked your friend if he had noticed how gorgeous she was.....he admitted he had, and that's why he deliberately took his glasses off to avoid temptation

This whole idea, noble as it is is not only fundamentally flawed (I'll get to that later), but self defeating, and might I add DISHONEST
There is a fundamental principle that works within us, and I'll state it as best I can: "You can not be tempted by something or desire something that you don't already want"
This basic principle has terrible implications for those trying to avoid lusting, and or Porn, and I'll explain why
If you're friend was Gay, and I mean like "really Gay", totally effeminate , do you think he would be tempted by that woman in the restaurant?.....No he wouldn't...In fact he could stare at her stark naked doing provocative sensual dancing in front of him, and it would have absolutely no effect on him at all, except to revolt him....WHY?, because he is not attracted to women, he doesn't desire them
This means that if you have to turn away from looking at a woman because you are afraid of what effect she will have on you as a man, then you ALREADY DESIRE HER, otherwise looking at her will have no effect on you.....It is impossible to "lust" after something you don't ALREADY desire......you could stick 20 of the most expensive, elite, shiny, brand new, computer chip powered Sewing Machines in front of me, and I could sit staring at them all day and not want to own one, because I simply have no interest in them, I don't desire them.....you do that to most female home makers though, and you've got a different story! lol
If us as men have to turn our gaze away from sexy, desirable women, and walk the rest of our lives with our eyes glued to the floor because we're afraid of "lusting" then we are deceiving ourselves, we already "lust" after them and want them....and by the way, I'm deliberately using the word "lust" here, as this blog uses it, and 95% of all teachers on this topic, I'm NOT using the word lust as how it is defined in the bible, but that's for another topic, another day

What I'm getting at, is this whole attitude of not looking at women is self defeating, and blatantly dishonest...it also fosters a very dangerous negative, hostile, and bitter attitude towards women because subconsciously we blame them for causing us to lust!

I personally don't think you will approve this comment of mine, because it speaks the TRUTH and cuts to the real heart of the matter, and I don't think America is ready to hear it yet, as she is completely engulfed in an anti-sexual puritannism that is openly hostile to male sexuality....But I have to speak as I'm a born again Christian who is very concerned at where this is all leading, both in my personal life and in the very fabric of society
God bless

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