by Marie Good
A letter to women who have experienced sexual betrayal by a spouse. Originally posted on October 23, 2017.
We have all been there. Each one of us have had a defining moment that has knocked us down. I once heard someone say… a miner is not looking for the dirt, but the gold. So how do you find the hope and healing among the devastation: your gold within the dirt.
In the classic book, The Scarlet Letter, Hester is forced to wear a Scarlet letter on the front of her garment as a constant reminder and label of her shame. I often wondered why she never ripped that horrible letter off, what forced her to continue living with that humiliation? Her shame became her bondage! She was stripped of her value and her worth…. Sound familiar?
Many of us have had wounds in our hearts that have held us in bondage just like Hester and her scarlet letter. Believing the lies that we have little worth or value will keep us from rising above the rubbles. I love this quote from Thema Davis,
“Make sure you do not start seeing yourself through the eyes of those who don’t value you. Know your worth even if they don’t”.
Rising from the rubble will require us to receive the truth of who we truly are. Not where we have been, nor what we have done or has been done to us, but who did God see when He so gently formed each one us? Scripture says, in Romans 12:2, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind…”
The world is filled with blame and shame, but God desires His daughters to realign our thinking with who He says we are: beloved, beautiful, chosen and absolutely enough! When we are able to accept that truth then we will be able to have the strength to rise and receive the love.
Our gold within the dirt is to be able to see ourselves through the eyes of a heavenly daddy who loves His little girls dearly, a God who has given our wounded and orphaned heart a new name, Forever loved!